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Post by Deleted on Apr 22, 2012 10:41:04 GMT
Today has not started well so I thought I'd just post a general question, perhaps aimed more at the older married (curmudgeons?) in our midst, to see whether it's a general problem or just me: Does any married man genuinely feel that they have genuinely 'won' an argument with their long term partner? 'Won' is probably the wrong word as it infers an element of competition or conflict. What I am talking about is convincing your partner that a sincerely held opinion they may hold may not actually be true or 'hold water'. TBH I'm struggling to recall one in our 46 year relationship but we're still hangin' in there . So, is it just me or is this 'par for the course'? Dave.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 22, 2012 14:12:24 GMT
So, is it just me or is this 'par for the course'? Dave. Dave, Par for the course. In 20 years together I've never 'won' an argument, but she never complains about the time and money I spend on music and hifi (and RG), so . . . swings and roundabouts. Jeff
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Post by Deleted on Apr 22, 2012 14:53:39 GMT
Never won or lost an argument with my wife, we just don`t argue. We discuss, either agree or disagree on an issue, and move on. She pretty much does what she wants, and so do i. We spend most of our time together, but both need time apart. Its worked well for the last 20yrs, so we are both happy and going strong. Mick.
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Post by clausdk on Apr 22, 2012 15:14:54 GMT
It is just you..
Our lives are pretty well described by Mick..
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Post by Deleted on Apr 22, 2012 15:29:38 GMT
Wot Mick, Claus and jeff said.
Aren't we lucky b...
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Post by Deleted on Apr 22, 2012 15:43:37 GMT
Same again.
The only things we actually have more "intense discussions" on regard aspects of the business. That is mainly because of her culinary creativity meeting my book keeping! We still always find a mutually agreeable solution though.
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Post by XTRProf on Apr 22, 2012 16:40:07 GMT
For me 0-100(her). Where is Signor Miguel who has more variety?
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Post by XTRProf on Apr 22, 2012 16:43:36 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Apr 22, 2012 17:23:51 GMT
We discuss, either agree or disagree on an issue, and move on. Mick. Hi Mick, Oh how I envy you! I'd love to discuss the situation but my dear wife sees any attempt to discuss differences as an 'attack' in an attempt to make her change her mind so just won't discuss. Other than that our situation is exactly the same as yours except that you're only practicing ;D - we've been together nah for 46 years and it don't seem a day too long ;D - someone should write a song about that . We avoid the arguments (usually ) by recognising the situation and move on - not ideal but works for us . We are both retired, both our kids now live away from home and my wife has a 'gammy' knee so 'going out' has it's problems, hence we spend 24/7 in each other's company. I'm not grumbling, by the way, I just wish we could talk about the occasional differences of opinion we have - fortunately the serious ones are very rare. And Jeff, we have the same sort of relationship providing the kit I want to bring into the living room ain't too 'ugly'. BTW, what they say about ladies (and men) with red hair is very true IME .
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Post by Deleted on Apr 22, 2012 19:15:25 GMT
Yes Dave,
But i`m not that far behind you, as i have had two!!.
First one was a lovely lady also, but neglected by me i`m sorry to say.
Time away in the forces, hours spent building up my business after, all played a part, selfish bastard i was, but lessons were learned.
Were still good friends, always will be.
Mick.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 22, 2012 19:27:03 GMT
BTW, what they say about ladies (and men) with red hair is very true IME . Yeah, what??
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Post by clausdk on Apr 22, 2012 19:45:36 GMT
BTW, what they say about ladies (and men) with red hair is very true IME . Yeah, what?? Their hair is red... I think About the years, will make an update in 40 years
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Post by Deleted on Apr 22, 2012 20:31:26 GMT
BTW, what they say about ladies (and men) with red hair is very true IME . Yeah, what?? That they are very volatile, have a very short fuse and a fiery temper - on the plus side it is also said that they are (sometimes ) equally quick to make up .
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Post by Deleted on Apr 22, 2012 23:10:46 GMT
That they are very volatile, have a very short fuse and a fiery temper - on the plus side it is also said that they are (sometimes ) equally quick to make up . Yeah, that's what I assumed you meant. My first wife - otherwise known as ' Queen Bitch of the Universe', had everything you mention there except the 'quick to make up' part. I walked out on New Years Eve twenty-odd years ago in the clothes I stood up in and never went back. So, so glad I did or I never would have met the love of my life. (soppy I know but true )
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Post by XTRProf on Apr 23, 2012 2:19:37 GMT
About the years, will make an update in 40 years Wow, till death will not part! Really, going to be an awesome relationship. How's your "second wife" www.hovedfi.de (if I get the url correct) doing? Long time not there .............
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Post by mingo on Apr 23, 2012 5:10:06 GMT
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Post by mingo on Apr 23, 2012 5:11:46 GMT
By the way, Claus is doing a tremendous job to keep us Danish headfiers happy.
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Post by clausdk on Apr 23, 2012 7:43:56 GMT
About the years, will make an update in 40 years Wow, till death will not part! Really, going to be an awesome relationship. How's your "second wife" www.hovedfi.de (if I get the url correct) doing? Long time not there ............. I see hoved-fi more as a child than a wife, it needs to be taken care of, my wife takes care fo me, there is a BIG difference.. It is going very well 344 members and 27000 posts in just over a year. I have been neglegting RG a bit the last couple of moons, but I still read a lot here, I sipmly do not have the time to be as active as I once was I have also startet a webshop which will be up and running very soon. So many things to do, so little time..
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Post by rowuk on May 1, 2012 9:15:19 GMT
It depends what you mean by "win". Winning a battle is not always significant when reviewing the war.
When a relationship is reduced to winning and losing, both have already lost.
I have been living common denominator for over 30 years.
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Post by dalethorn on May 13, 2012 17:03:25 GMT
No, never, cannot win. Yes, they see clearly through our transparencies and they know we are trying to win. And even if we think we've scored a teeny, tiny victory sometime, to them it's just a challenge to cudgel us with later. Abandon all hope, ye who enter into marriage.
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